18 Ugly Truths About Modern Dating That You Have To Deal With


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18 Ugly Truths About Modern Dating That You Have To Deal With

Apr. 4, 2014
By Christopher Hudspeth

1. The person who cares less has all the power. Nobody wants to be the one who’s more interested.

2. Because we want to show how cavalier and blasé we can be to the other person, little psychological games like ‘Intentionally Take Hours Or Days To Text Back’ will happen. They aren’t fun.

3. A person being carefree because they have zero interest in you looks exactly like a person being carefree because they think you’re amazing & are making a conscious effort to play it cool. Good luck deciphering between the two.

4. Making phone calls is a dying art. Chances are, most of your relationship’s communication will happen via text, which is the most detached, impersonal form of interaction. Get familiar with those emoticon options.

5. Set plans are dead. People have options and up-to-the-minute updates on their friends (or other potential romantic interests) whereabouts thanks to texts & social media. If you aren’t the top priority, your invitation to spend time will be given a “Maybe” or “I’ll let you know” and the deciding factor(s) will be if that person has offers more fun/interesting than you on the table.

6. Someone who hurt you isn’t automatically going to have bad karma. At least not in the immediate future. I know it only seems fair, but sometimes people cheat and betray and move on happily while the person they left is in shambles.

7. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.

8. “Let’s chill” & “Wanna hang out?” are vague phrases that likely mean “let’s hookup” — and while you probably hate receiving them, they’re the common way to invite someone to spend time these days, and appear to be here to stay.

9. Some people just want to hookup and if you’re seeking more than sex, they won’t tell you that they’re the wrong person for you. At least, not until after they score your prize. While human decency is ideal, honesty isn’t mandatory.

10. The text message you sent went through. If they didn’t respond, it wasn’t because of malfunctioning phone carrier services.

11. So many people are scared of commitment and being official that they’ll remain in a label-free relationship, which blurs lines and only works until it doesn’t. I’ve said it many times before, I’ll say it again – “we’re just talking” is opening the door for cheating that technically wasn’t cheating because, hey, you weren’t together together.

12. Social media creates new temptations and opportunities to cheat. The private messaging and options for subtle flirtation (e.g. liking of pictures) aren’t an excuse or validation for cheating, but they certainly increase the chances of it happening.

13. Social media can also create the illusion of having options, which leads to people looking at Facebook as an attractive people menu instead of a means of keeping contact with friends & family.

14. You aren’t likely to see much of someone’s genuine, unfiltered self until you’re in an actual relationship with him or her. Generally people are scared that sincerely putting themselves out there will result in finding out that they’re too available, too anxious, too nerdy, too nice, too safe, too boring, not funny enough, not pretty enough, not some other person enough to be embraced.

15. Any person you get romantically involved with you’ll either wind up staying with forever or breaking up with them at some point. These are equally terrifying concepts.

16. When dating, instead of expressing how they feel directly to you, a person is more likely to post a Facebook status or Instagram a Tumblr-esque photo of a sunset with a quote or song lyric of someone else’s words on it, and while it may not mention your name, it’s blatantly directed at you.

17. There are plenty of people who’ll have zero respect for your relationship and if they want the person you’re with, they’ll have no qualms with trying to overstep boundaries to get to ‘em. Girl code and guy code are wishful thinking and human code isn’t embedded in everyone.

18. If you get dumped, it’s probably going to be pretty brutal. People can cut ties over the phone and avoid seeing the tears stream down your face or end things via text and avoid hearing the pain in your cracking voice and sniffling nose. Send a lengthy text and voilà, relationship over. The easy way out is far from the most considerate.

What say you? Can you relate to any?


New member
They are all pretty true. Either my friends are going through it now or I've seen it myself. I hate the passive aggressive ways in dating now.


Self Made
7. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.



Searching For Answers
7. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.

thats pretty much the truth though

its like a dude who gives a girl flowers on the first date or when they begin dating...
If she likes him she gonna find it sweet and nice...
If she aint feelin him like that she gonna find it dorkie and corny..


no 3 is he saddest and most pathetic of them all..no 3 is a CONSCIOUS decision to be an asshole..

if someone is digging you..there is no guessing game..
you're right-- there shouldn't be a guessing game. but do you really think that everyone that does this is consciously trying to be an asshole? IMO, some ppl maybe. on the other hand, you know how many ppl are afraid of rejection? ppl don't wanna appear to be "thirsty." some want to save face and some just aren't comfortable expressing how they feel


Cervical Cancer
Pretty much all valid...

though, I don't like the way "eleven" was stated....it made it seem like being able to date others was the all and be all of why a person establishes that label. That just a LOW minded way of reasoning to me.

I will say "TEN" also was shakey...In 2014, many are busy and involved and sometimes just can't get around to responded. Personally, I have a bad happy of replying to message...but not hitting SEND. Then hours later wondering why someone didn't respond back, and seeing the message in composed phase. I attribute that error to being still use "BB", where hitting enter send the message...but it's not the same on android devices.


Registered User
LOL, this is on point. #2, #4, #5 hit home, it's so true how smartphones and social media has really taken out the "human" in social interactions. Lol@making phone calls is a dying art...that is exactly why I tend to call chicks up rather than the whole 200 texts/day...nah I'm gonna call you everyday...so we can speak and I can actually hear your voice and feel where your mindset is currently at...ppl be running away from that...texting is done at such a safe distance...ppl won't say things on a phone, that they have no problem dishing out in a cold manner thru a text...

#9 has impacted "my numbers" rather significantly...becuz if it gets to the point where the chick makes it known she wants a relationship...and I'm not looking for anything more than hooking up...I actually tell her...so she doesn't feel used/played...my friends continue to ridicule me to this day for this...but now I'm changing...lol...the game is so messed up to the point I feel like the oddball...as if I was the one doing something wrong...lol...so now like they say I just "go with the flow"...hate the game, not the player...


New member
Remove as much technology as possible from your personal life.........not only relationship wise but I deliberately call people who I am close with when they text me..........messaging is to save on long distance costs and I don't even waste time replying to mass holiday texts........call me or Fock off......