What I realize is the men who are all about their money expect that money to buy them the best girl money can buy. And it's generally something very very surface like body, face, hair, style of dress that determines for them who the best girl is. Looks suppose to be one part of the deal, not the majority or 95% almost all of it. Then they keep "trading up"...and because they haven't put a focus on intelligence and caring and loving natures...they get the idiots and the ice cold b*tches.At the end of the day you're just going to have a large contingent of black men that mess up the game.
I have a friend, well we ain't friends now (another story) this guy have EVERYTHING going for him in life, a Masters degree, a thriving career, his own house in a upscale part of the city. In about 5 to 6 years he'll be a millionaire easily. There ain't a lot of single black men in this city (including me) that have all he has to offer going for him.
And just a begging assed hound dog towards women! Just shake my head at how this guy'll throw himself at womens' feet that couldn't give a rats ass about him. Why? Because they have a piece of shape?
Couple weeks ago some fine chick he liked was doing a temp assignment at his law firm and he approached her. He asked for her contact info, she told him: "How about you give me your email address and I'll email you?"
I told him: "Maaaaan WTF this chicken is a professional woman and can't afford a cellphone plan? She's screening you and keeping you at a distance. She ain't interested in you. Tell that broad to get lost, she's punking you!"
He tells me: "You're too negative don't worry, by next week hopefully she'll be meeting me for lunch!" Your problem DerMonger is, you don't like a challenge. I don't want a woman that is so easy to talk to."
A whole week came and he tells me: "Yeah you were right about her, she never contacted me over time, and when she approaches my office, she makes it a point to speed up until she's outta my view as to not make eye contact with me".
i mean if you go to the club looking to pick up a chick, why are you mad if the chick you pick up used her looks to get you.. people don't go to the club to have intellectual discussions... lol.. if you want to meet folks on a cerebral level then you go to places where those folks will congregate....... if you went to the club and lusted after the chick with the butt on display, then went out of your way to compete with other men for the same girl and got her.. who won? you or her?... she used what she had to get what she wanted.. and so did you.. so fair exchange is no robbery i guess...
what kinda amazes me is that men then want these women to morph and turn into something that they may not have been when you met them... start as you mean go to on...
Lol...me?! I despise hummus....and red peppers.yea Strum, you could find a woman in Trader Joes who shares your love for organic red pepper hummus .. :feelsick.. lol
Well to be fair it seems as if he is able to separate entertainment from reality.you know i had a convo with a friend of mine the other day about strippers.. telling me he love stripclubs so when i ask if he would date one, he say nah nah, thats too much baggage i was like :confused what? he was like he can't be with no girl who get paid for letting men feel
on her.. i was like wait, how you tryna judge teh stripper when you RIGHT THERE in the midst of the seedy club WITH her!... if you NEVER went to strip clubs i can see you having that viewpoint eh, but you are one of the men payin to feel on her.. smh .. men.. lol
You are correct.Well to be fair it seems as if he is able to separate entertainment from reality.
For instance...I paid money to go see the movie Flight and be entertained by a coke sniffing alcoholic professional black man. I immensely enjoyed the movie...will get the DVD even....but will I strive to be like that? Not at all.
I'm sure there are things you watch, listen to that will never emulate in your life. I know a lot of professional upstanding women that religiously watch basketball wives & scandal...but would never aspire to to date an athlete or sleep with a married man.
I know that these things are different than a paying a woman to take off her clothes....but its in the same realm...entertainment that is purely just...entertainment
You are correct.
But there is a big difference between being entertained and knowing this isn't your life vs. the incessant finger pointing and casting fire and brimstone upon.....All the while knowing full well you faithfully curled up in front your tv every Sunday to take in NeNe n her antics (RHOA).
That's the shit I don't like.
:rofl: :rofl:meeting someone that share a commin interest in organic food is cool so trader joes is awesome..
but what about going to an Organic Strip club you know the ones that dont allow fake tits and fake booty on the strippers and meetin somethin new there.. thats cool too imma delete this
if you use cheddar as the bait, dont be suprised when you attract rats!!!!!!!
your friend DerMonger,as soon as he heard her tell him she'll give him her email address. should have simply looked her dead in the eye and said "you know what, dont worry about it.. have a good day" and walked away.. and when he came into work the next day smile as if he NEVER met her or was introduced to her.. and go about his business as if she didnt exist..
but on the real, as you described him, your friend clearly feels like "breaking a woman down" is part of the process.. to feel as if he has conquered her? so a woman on temp assignment and he all over them? and you say he throws himself at unavailable women? that's a sign that he has self esteem issues and probably is in need of some sort of therapy... thats a man with more baggage than a transatlantic cruise ship..
Reformed ho's do the same thing...but maybe they're heads are a little straighter than in the pastYes :good:
Fellas....don't expect to meet the woman of your dreams in clubs & bars.
Get out & volunteer in the neighborhood, go to networking events in your career, charity events, good supermarkets even have good women sometimes lol.