Living with someone that cheated on you.....

DerMonger

Active member
......must be THE worse (non-violence related) relationship scenario I can think of. Wow I don't know how I'd cope coming home to someone that did that day in and out without flipping out?

My friend just found out that her husband cheated on her. Now I don't know both sides of the story other than what she said so I won't pass judgement on anyone. I always saw them as a great couple.

They have 2 kids together, just moved into a brand new home. And on the flipside I also know I rely on this person to foot their weight financially in the bond we made to buy a house and raise our children so walking out means a long painful financial process.

Marriage nuh easy at all.
 

MÉCHANT LOUP

Cervical Cancer
House=Plenty of ROOMS.....

You stay in your part, I will stay in MINE....until we are able to part in some amicable way.
 
B

Black Madonna

Guest
Bless their hearts....

Can't wait to see how this drama filled thread turns out
 

Steupz

Registered User
I could deal if we had children. I'd just focus on the children until my mind accepted a divorce or reconciliation.
The reality is, if you're in love, you'd try to make it work if the cheater is willing.
 

EloquenceInc

Get your passport & come !
......must be THE worse (non-violence related) relationship scenario I can think of. Wow I don't know how I'd cope coming home to someone that did that day in and out without flipping out?

My friend just found out that her husband cheated on her. Now I don't know both sides of the story other than what she said so I won't pass judgement on anyone. I always saw them as a great couple.

They have 2 kids together, just moved into a brand new home. And on the flipside I also know I rely on this person to foot their weight financially in the bond we made to buy a house and raise our children so walking out means a long painful financial process.

Marriage nuh easy at all.
There is nothing painful about the financial process to ending a marriage if she has her own money and made sure she was able to take care of herself before a man came along. She should not be expected to make enough, however, to manage kids on her own, cause it took 2 to make them.

Women only think they are obligated to take the kids and the house from under the man. That's a choice. They can CHOOSE to stay, they can CHOOSE to leave, they can CHOOSE to go the long drawn out route, or they can CHOOSE, if they can afford it, to walk away with no pain and freedom from making a man's money enslave them and get them dissed. They can even choose to simply get up and be gone.

If she divorce the decision should be if she really wants to be a single woman with 2 children and no time or energy to take care of herself or meet his replacement more than likely...she is not going to go out there and find some hidden stash of twice as amazing men... Long as you know how to go make your own money what money in a man pocket can never make a slave out of you. Give up your right to the house in divorce court and have your name taken off the mortgage and the mortgage removed from your credit, so if he defaults it doesn't mess you up. That's a radical thought but some woman a gwaan like this ISN'T 2012 and we can't replace material things if we lose them. This house doesn't have to be the last house she buys, and she can still get first time home buyer status if a certain amount of years have passed since she last owned a house...

If she doesn't mind the war nor the single parent life and don't want to work it out, by all means, bun him and spite him in divorce court as you boot him out the door.
 

Minxy

New member
......must be THE worse (non-violence related) relationship scenario I can think of. Wow I don't know how I'd cope coming home to someone that did that day in and out without flipping out?

My friend just found out that her husband cheated on her. Now I don't know both sides of the story other than what she said so I won't pass judgement on anyone. I always saw them as a great couple.

They have 2 kids together, just moved into a brand new home. And on the flipside I also know I rely on this person to foot their weight financially in the bond we made to buy a house and raise our children so walking out means a long painful financial process.

Marriage nuh easy at all.
this is the case in tooooooooo many relationships...imo, if u stay, u both are doomed :drag:
 
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