Need some help asking a question......

notorious saga

Sagattarius
Now this is the graphic stuff I'd be uncomfortable discussing with my friend... How did you first come out to those who suspected and how are those relationships now? Serious question.
Hoss just look at my username and look at yours, your name is TOLOMB bumbum my name is notorious saga. what grown ass man would come on a site and ask if his friend is gay? except for swaggerific. :kicks
 

TOLOMB

Red Man
Hoss just look at my username and look at yours, your name is TOLOMB bumbum my name is notorious saga. what grown ass man would come on a site and ask if his friend is gay? except for swaggerific. :kicks
I called out an ex-coworker of mine for his blatant use of butt jokes trying to deflect attention of his homosexuality. He denied and denied and denied till one day another co-worker caught his computer open with an email from his lover.....Busted! You myouth are acting in a similar fashion which makes me wonder :scratch Bravado only works for so long and I'm genuinely interested in how the relationships with your friends that know who you truly are today?
 

triniameri

Hey Ms. Carter...
Qualities that I think he might be gay:

1. I've never been introduced to any females when I'm in town......No female friends either!!!
2. Not one picture with him embracing a women with a romantic vibe.
3. Have only met male friends and "roommates".

Now these things aren't the answer but it paints a picture.
Next time yuh over his place check under bathroom sink...if you see this



talk done :kicks
 

Swollen

Players Play I Coach
I called out an ex-coworker of mine for his blatant use of butt jokes trying to deflect attention of his homosexuality. He denied and denied and denied till one day another co-worker caught his computer open with an email from his lover.....Busted! You myouth are acting in a similar fashion which makes me wonder :scratch Bravado only works for so long and I'm genuinely interested in how the relationships with your friends that know who you truly are today?


Was that Vega?
 

Lucianite

Registered User
Thanks for the link. I think if he was like that then his social circle would be small which doesn't fit with that solosexual picture.
Again, as friends for so long why can't you ask him ?

it might be more offensive to be thinking that then to ask the question straight up..... you can't be the first and only person thinking that...

is he a social misfit ? does his male friends look gay ?
 

Buhbayduss

change is up to us...
I can't even say stop beating bush... swallow yuh silva and asked the man... if he yuh friend as you say. ... find away and asked... cuz yuh dun feel he is fowl and not fowl cock...
 

TOLOMB

Red Man
Again, as friends for so long why can't you ask him ?

it might be more offensive to be thinking that then to ask the question straight up..... you can't be the first and only person thinking that...

is he a social misfit ? does his male friends look gay ?

I find it offensive that I think that way. I also know my reaction if I was asked that. I know frendships change from misunderstandings all the time, but he's a cool dude overall and I think a genuine person. So it's a question that needs to be asked correctly.
 

triniameri

Hey Ms. Carter...
I does really learn tings on imix.....
KEEPING IT CLEAN WITH MENEMAS
BY: JOE THOMPSON
5.27.2010
Okay, so here's the dirty truth: as gay men, we know that sex can get messy.

Some guys freak out about it, while others accept it and move on. But however we deal with it, we all basically know that it's just the way things are—the price of doing business, if you will. Right?

Well, Fleet Laboratories has released Fleet Naturals, which are used for "Elective Rectal Cleansing" and they're targeting it to men. Especially gay men. Which is why we're calling it a "Menema."

According to the press materials, 4% of the general population, and one in five gay men, do elective rectal cleansing. And while those of us in LA suspect that every gay guy we meet is a porn star and we all know they clean up their act prior to performing, that large a number means that regular gay guys are doing it, too.

Yay us! The gays are setting trends as usual.

Fleet Naturals is drug free, fragrance free, and is formulated for daily use (it's not the Fleet Laxative Enemas in the green box you're used to seeing). But what we love most is that Fleet is actually marketing this product and talking about it so openly.

Let's face facts: society is so hung up about butts that they can't talk about anything having to do with them. Anal sex, health, or cleanliness—they're all topics we're told to avoid, and in each case that avoidance usually ends up causing people problems.

But Fleet is producing a product that guys need and want, and they're publicly talking about it.

So good on them and their menemas. And good for you, too.

Get more info here.
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Now that we as a culture have become inured to marketing for such once-taboo topics as erectile dysfunction, personal lubrication and manscaping, get ready for the ad world to literally hit bottom.

As in, recreational enemas.

You still there?

No, we’re not pulling this one out of our butt. C.B. Fleet Inc., the Lynchburg, Virginia, company synonymous with at-home disposable colonics, debuts a new product this month specifically for what they’ve termed “elective rectal cleansing.”

And, since any new product requires an advertising campaign, Fleet is buying space starting in June in the national gay monthly Out as well as 10 regional publications and various popular websites aimed at gay and lesbian readers. Fleet also will try online ads on general-interest health websites like MensHealth.com and Prevention.com, “but certainly, it’s an easy and efficient target to reach LGBT media,” said Emily Klopp, senior brand manager for Fleet Naturals.

“We’ve always known that some of our consumers were using Fleet enemas for reasons other than to relieve constipation, so we wanted to develop a product that would meet the needs of those users and provide them with a safe way to cleanse and frequently if desired,” Klopp said.

Between Fleet and private label brands, consumers buy about $30 million in enemas annually. Fleet dominates the market, though because it's a private company, it won't disclose specific sales figures. Fleet's new version hits shelves at CVS drug stores and Target this month, followed by Walgreens next month and Rite-Aid in June. Wal-Mart is the only major retailer so far to balk at carrying it, Klopp said.

The company commissioned polling firm Harris Interactive last year to research the market potential and found that 3.7 percent of the general population had used an enema to “electively rectally cleanse” in the prior year. A study focusing specifically on gay and bisexual men found 21 percent of them had done so. Yet Harris found the two populations do so for different reasons: 80 percent of the general population said they used an enema for “health and well-being” while 87 percent of gay and bisexual men said they did so as a precursor to “anal intimacy.” About 38 percent of the general population said they used enemas for “anal intimacy”; respondents were permitted to select more than one answer.

To market the product in a manner that doesn’t gross anyone out, Fleet turned to Euro RSCG. The ad firm produced a series of print ads showing, for instance, a donkey–A.K.A. ass–above the tagline: “Keep it clean. Naturally.”

Gay marketing expert Mike Wilke gave Fleet kudos for even acknowledging this market when, not long ago, it might have been too icky to embrace.

“Especially because we’re talking about a company that doesn’t do a lot of advertising to begin with, it’s meaningful that they’re advertising at all, that they’re advertising in a charming way and they’re going after a market that companies don’t always go after,” said Wilke.

While Fleet is clearly embracing the implicit pre-anal-sex element of the new product for gay and bisexual male customers, they also believe the “health and well-being” market is the bigger potential opportunity.

“We ran focus groups and one person said it helped him think clearly, that he needs to cleanse daily to get thru the day,” Klopp said. “Without it, he said he feels muddled.”

Others claimed electively cleansing helped with weight loss and acne, although Klopp is quick to note that there is no research to support any such health benefits. The packaging makes a similar disclaimer.

The Fleet Naturals line appears in a mocha-colored box and has important differences from its famous green-boxed forebear. Whereas the traditional enema contains a laxative because it is chiefly intended to relieve constipation, Fleet Naturals has no active ingredient but contains aloe to enhance the sought-after fresh sensation. The original version used a petroleum-based lubricant on its tip, but the new one uses a water-based lube, a nod to the fact that it may be deployed in close proximity to sexual intercourse with latex condoms that can break when they interact with petroleum products.

One of Fleet’s arguments for its Naturals line is that it is safer for regular use than using the laxative-inducing version and more effective and hygienic than other methods people use to anally douche.

“They’re bringing a new SKU onto the shelf in their product category by having something that’s distinct in the marketplace,” Wilke said. “It may be hard to grow the market but they can steal a share from another aspect of the category. The market can also be people who are using showerheads.”

Indeed, Klopp insisted that’s precisely the goal.

“I think it would be a tough sell to tell someone who has never rectally cleansed before that they need to try it,” she said. “That could be an objective for Year 2 or 3.”

Heh heh. She said the number 2.
 

ladyrastafari

Notchilous
i think its the whole male homophobia thing.. i wouldnt give two shits if one of my friends is a lesbian or bisexual yes.. i know who falls into those categories..
 

triniameri

Hey Ms. Carter...
i think its the whole male homophobia thing.. i wouldnt give two shits if one of my friends is a lesbian or bisexual yes.. i know who falls into those categories..
it's never been a big deal to me either because I have always been surrounded by gays from teachers, friends, coworkers so it never really mattered.. what you do and who you do in the bedroom is none of my business..I have plenty gay friends both male and female like LR say "I know who fall into those categories" sometimes even before they do! :kicks
 

Swollen

Players Play I Coach
it's never been a big deal to me either because I have always been surrounded by gays from teachers, friends, coworkers so it never really mattered.. what you do and who you do in the bedroom is none of my business..I have plenty gay friends both male and female like LR say "I know who fall into those categories" sometimes even before they do! :kicks
ah see yuh did a lot of research is that of recent...
 

Alpha Unit

Insurgent
i think its the whole male homophobia thing.. i wouldnt give two shits if one of my friends is a lesbian or bisexual yes.. i know who falls into those categories..
Exactly why ah tell yuh doh study it becaw even when yuh feel yuh understand yuh don't. Yuh cah apply woman feelings and reactions to man. Allyuh could ha any amount ah gay friends allyuh want, man (most of us black ones) if we have we way would never have any period. Some will try to be tollerant but no matter how yuh slice it da friendship change. Wha de ass yuh go tawk about dollyhouse wid 2 ken? :kicks
 

TOLOMB

Red Man
So ladies....I'm to understand that you've had/have female friends that played the role of being straight in their younger days, but now they are comfortable with whom they've always been and you were able to get that out of them without offending them?

I thought I knew what lesbians looked like but I've been amazed by a few bad ass women that were gay....Couldn't see through there looks because they are drop dead gorgeous. Shit I was shocked when Don Lemon said he is gay...go figure.
 
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