Where are you now?

Consider all influences ie. Family, Schooling, Community etc.

  • Below Expectations

    Votes: 2 15.4%
  • Right On Target

    Votes: 3 23.1%
  • Exceeding Expectations

    Votes: 4 30.8%
  • Somewhere in the Middle

    Votes: 4 30.8%

  • Total voters
    13

TOLOMB

Red Man
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G

Gladiator

Guest
I am better off than 4 years ago

*stealing some political thunder here*
 

ladyrastafari

Notchilous
i would say right on target... there are conclusions one must draw for oneself regardless of how many other people think that is right for you..
 

TOLOMB

Red Man
Well Sankofaa was right.....


Anyways this question/poll was to kind of see if coming from a "good background" makes it easier for someone to just meld into the status quo or excel for their demographic versus someone coming from a harsh background and gaining anything better is viewed as a success there by exceeding expectations?
 

ladyrastafari

Notchilous
Well Sankofaa was right.....


Anyways this question/poll was to kind of see if coming from a "good background" makes it easier for someone to just meld into the status quo or excel for their demographic versus someone coming from a harsh background and gaining anything better is viewed as a success there by exceeding expectations?
i dont think it has anything to do with background but more to do with self... you could acquiesce to your family's wishes and go into what they want you to do or you can do what you want to do in life... sometimes you have to simply learn what is not for you and what is for you and then make a decision... some people who do things not expected of them and are far wilder than their demographic suggests are some of the most talented people i know and go against the grain to follow their passion rather than doing what their background would suggest- being a lawyer, doctor etc... while others who people would expect ot become a gunman or a cashier, rose above circumstances and went into the professions or otherwise became successful.. it's not the environment but rather the person yes...

and people may have avoided this thread because some may simply not know where they are supposed to be, others dont want to admit they are not there, and yet others have no direct path, they take life one day at a time rather than live according to some predetermined future plan...
 

TOLOMB

Red Man
i dont think it has anything to do with background but more to do with self... you could acquiesce to your family's wishes and go into what they want you to do or you can do what you want to do in life... sometimes you have to simply learn what is not for you and what is for you and then make a decision... some people who do things not expected of them and are far wilder than their demographic suggests are some of the most talented people i know and go against the grain to follow their passion rather than doing what their background would suggest- being a lawyer, doctor etc... while others who people would expect ot become a gunman or a cashier, rose above circumstances and went into the professions or otherwise became successful.. it's not the environment but rather the person yes...



and people may have avoided this thread because some may simply not know where they are supposed to be, others dont want to admit they are not there, and yet others have no direct path, they take life one day at a time rather than live according to some predetermined future plan...


I hear yuh....But you have to put structure into the mix. Say a person came from a stable home and have a standard education plus lived in a decent community. One would have to bet that with that type of background, that person would end up in the middle class. If they do better for themselves, then that's to be expected because you have all the tools for advancement in that type of environment. But if you don't it’s okay because they’ll remain in the middleclass. Whereas a person who comes from a more affluent background, schooling, social sector, etc. drops to say middleclass status/lifestyle, then they are more than likely following their dream or doing them right. But they would be deemed as perfoming below expectations. IJS. But someone from the have not’s who attained or heading in a better direction is more revered for making it out or making a way out. IJS. You’ve sated that your right on target today. Is that base more so on your age? For instance, if one works in Corporate America the best time and sometimes the only time you can move upwards into Major Management is between the ages of 29 – 35 so you can then be molded further for VP/Board status. Or is it based on the goals that you've set for yourself where you’re looking at retirement and the things you want to have done by that time
 

ladyrastafari

Notchilous
in terms of experience before going down the rabbit hole into a profession that was carved out for me ... i like doing things based on what i want to do, not what is necessarily laid out by others... anything i do in life, i must see where it benefits me or else i have no interest in it... i know what i want out of life and i am on target with that..
 

Poca

Registered User
I don't think that I had a serious desire to be anything or anywhere specific in life. So, I can't really say that I am where at wanted to be in life. Some had a lot of expectations about me and they might feel as if I "failed" but then, I really was never the type to fulfill anyone's expectation. I took a very different road in life, actually I should say that I followed a really unexpected road. I am very open to what life has to offer and I am not afraid to venture and see how it may lead. I ended up at the same place or I can even say further than if I had taken the usual path.
 

TOLOMB

Red Man
@LR
So "right on target" is solely from a professional aspect that you’re looking at things? Women normally have allot more to think about than men because you guys are on that life clock also. That response sounds a bit off though...its comes across as being more "in the middle", as a minor achievement outside of what’s expected hasn't yet occurred to put you on the path you truly desire.

@Poca
Gauging the expectations that were set for you....do you think they were hard to attain? Also do you think there is still room for growth today or it’s more of maintaining where you at that is most important?
 

Poca

Registered User
I don't think that they were too hard for me to attain. Maybe the fact that they were "expectations" is what kept me away from them. I was never the kind of kid who do as pleased however I was always good in what I choose to do. That maybe stemmed from the 100% effort mindset I was raised in. Funny enough, I am a least effort possible for maximun benefit type of person and I know that drove and still driving a lot of people in my family to be upset at me. Because I "made it" they are not only upset because I didn't choose a "noble" avenue. I believe that the door is never closed so maybe one day I would give them that satisfaction.

I believe that there is always room for growth. Personally, it's a struggle to know when to be content with life and stop looking for improvement. Sometimes, I wonder if I wouldn't be happier if I had a more "regular" life because I wouldn't always be tempted and succumb to always get more and more and more.


@Poca
Gauging the expectations that were set for you....do you think they were hard to attain? Also do you think there is still room for growth today or it’s more of maintaining where you at that is most important?
 

ladyrastafari

Notchilous
@LR
So "right on target" is solely from a professional aspect that you’re looking at things? Women normally have allot more to think about than men because you guys are on that life clock also. That response sounds a bit off though...its comes across as being more "in the middle", as a minor achievement outside of what’s expected hasn't yet occurred to put you on the path you truly desire.

@Poca
Gauging the expectations that were set for you....do you think they were hard to attain? Also do you think there is still room for growth today or it’s more of maintaining where you at that is most important?

for my life's path, i am on target. i am not in a rush to arrive at any destination before its time in my life.. what eh miss yuh eh pass you... i value my experiences... haha.. now my parents ready for anything because they know i not hasty.. lol..
 

dollbabi

Earth Angel
Perhaps in the middle since I am in new chapter of my life. I have been right on target or have exceeded expectations, generally speaking. However, now I have new challenges in front of me and time will tell how I meet them. Tis life!
 

NASDAQ

Registered User
My goal was to avoid jail and never be put in handcuffs, so far I’ve done both, some of my friends were not so fortunate.
In terms of life wise, I never set a “I need to be this at this time”.. to me that is stupid. I never forget a saying that I heard years ago “if you want to give God a good laugh, make plans” and I’ve seen that statement live true to life. So I take it day by day. Next year I want to take a step into being more of a family man but I will see how that goes.
I cross bridges when I get to them.
 

TOLOMB

Red Man
It really wasn’t hard for me to exceed expectations coming from where I’m from. But it’s a good awkward feeling to be considered a role model.
The one goal that I set for myself as an adult I’ve accomplished in part and hopefully it will be wholly owned within the next 2 years.
I’ve set a couple more goals for myself, the biggest being to work for myself and I think I can make it happen in the time that I’ve allotted.
 

Alpha Unit

Insurgent
I am right where Jah want me to be. I had different plans but I am more than happy with my spot. Not everything you plan for yourself makes sense and for me certain things took priority over what I dreamt of as a youngster.
 
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